I’m sure most of you my age will remember the American TV series, Party of 5. That phrase always sticks with me, I remember going to America with my parents and that is how you are greeted when you enter a restaurant.
Being a Party of 5 brings challenges though, somehow most events are made for 4 – holidays, hotels, apartments, cars with carseats, family pass…. But hey it’s not unusual to have 5 in your family and you make it work.
What I want to mention though is the decision to go from a family of 4 to a family of 5. Quite a few of our friends are making that decision now or have recently made it and I know more who can’t quite decide what is right for them. I always imagined having 2 children, I think it’s because I came from a family of 4 but after number 2 I couldn’t stop thinking about ‘just 1 more!’. Dave was on the fence, there were plenty of reasons not to, house, cars, schools, flights to Ireland (that’s a big one), going back to the baby stage, expense, expense, expense!! We thought about the pros and the cons and always came back to the fact that one more would just be nice. Babies are adorable, there’s no denying that but they don’t stay small forever and once they start talking and walking you are in for drama, stress, attitude but oh so much love.
Having 3 kids is hard work, there is no break, no downtime and somebody is constantly calling your name. The relationships between our girls though is beautiful. Yes the oldest two fight with each other, a LOT but they also make each other laugh and entertain each other – they’d truly be lost without each other. Our youngest is adorable to watch, following her older sisters around, doing exactly what they do and saying what they say. Our youngest two are best friends and never fight, Little F is probably spoilt in some ways but not in others because she doesn’t get all the attention as there is always a fight for us to ‘look at me!’.
Life is busy and life is expensive but I would never change it. What a good friend of mine in Dublin once said to me was… you may regret not having a 3rd but if you decide to, you’ll never regret it once they are here. So do you live with the chance you may regret it or just jump in and go for it? There are plenty of reasons to say no; age, money, existing dynamic, just no desire for another child but every day I am glad that we did as Little F completes our Party of 5! We’ve no intention to become a party of 6 though!